Done day before yesterday (20110301 Tu)

[mdlbear]

0301 Tu
  * up 7:45; W=196.4; drugs, nose, teeth, light; dishes, coffee
  : broadband back to 10%; resetting connection worked, but for how long?
  @ Just shoot me - Cringely on technology (the economy; bogus news)
  @ Stripping girls dont guarantee secure passwords | Naked Security via @snipeyhead 
  : to answer the previous question, less than an hour.  Tried a reset this
    time.  It worked, but again for how long? -- still up at 11:28.
    See ~/bin/ping-test
  & now editing to.do on work desktop, which makes sense anyway.
  * TJ's for lunch items:  apples, dried apricots, chocolate (1lb 72% - yum),
    trail mix (candied ginger, macadamias, almonds - YUM!).  One serving of
    tofu spring rolls.  Total damage under $22.
  @ Hard-Coding Bias in Google "Algorithmic" Search Results
  * Avoiding
  @ 
    Language Log Q: Do corporations have "personal privacy"? A: No. via thnidu: language and the law 
  @ Guest Blogger Starling: Schroedinger's Rapist: or a guy's guide to
    approaching strange women without being maced - Shapely Prose via elf 
  @ Gray Areas of Sexual Consent -> The Enthusiastic Yes | Cupcakes and Mace 
  @ Rape, Enthusiastic Consent, and the Stoplight Problem - Hugo Schwyzer -
    Open Salon  "The basic idea was simple: yes means yes, but that yes
    needs to be grounded in genuine enthusiasm."
  @ Not just consent but enthusiasm: some notes on college sex workshops and
    stoplights at Hugo Schwyzer "I always argue that anything short of
    an authentic, honest, uncoerced, aroused and sober Hell, yes! is, in
    the end, just a no in another form." 
  @ Asexuality and Rape « Singularly Bizarre
    Jim C. Hines » Gray Rape
  * bed 11ish

(Note: I started this one last night, but either got distracted or fell asleep before writing more than the first paragraph. So...)

I started the day discovering that resetting the broadband connection only got me about an hour's worth of good connection. Rebooting the router, OTOH, seems to have done the trick. Next time I'll start there and save myself the aggravation of navigating through AT&T's site to find the link that connects me via IM to some guy in India.

Went to Trader Joe's to stock up on lunch items for my desk. Apples, dried apricots, chocolate (1lb 72% - yum), trail mix (candied ginger, macadamias, almonds, dried cranberries - YUM!). One serving of tofu spring rolls.

Work was busy, as I'm gradually settling in to my new project.

A lot of links. Most, this time, are on the subject of rape, "date rape", and consent. To quote this article, "I always argue that anything short of an authentic, honest, uncoerced, aroused and sober Hell, yes! is, in the end, just a no in another form." That.

I'm not sure what they're teaching kids these days. Probably, now that sex education has been eviscerated by budget cuts and the Religious Right, not a whole lot more than I got in the early '60s from my parents' bookshelf. (I seem to have missed the Sexual Revolution, between the Pill and AIDS, almost completely, but attitudes were very different then.)

Just to clarify, kids, not only does "no" mean no, but no answer means no, "maybe" means no, "oh, ok" means no, and alcohol means Hell No! One party under 18 means "Hell no! and we'll talk about this again when you're old enough to know better." "Right ****ing now!" means "let's talk about it afterwards, and by the way what's our safeword?"

Go look under the cut -- there are more of them.

Comments

[chaoswolf]

Just to clarify, kids, not only does "no" mean no, but no answer means no, "maybe" means no, "oh, ok" means no, and alcohol means Hell No! One party under 18 means "Hell no! and we'll talk about this again when you're old enough to know better." "Right ****ing now!" means "let's talk about it afterwards, and by the way what's our safeword?"

I'm assuming this is pertaining to my sister and her Insignifigant Other?

[pocketnaomi.livejournal.com]

Specifically, it was pertaining to my yelling at your father in no uncertain terms for how gently he is treating the Insignificant Other, and why it matters to me.

[smoooom.livejournal.com]

Last week a cop was censured for a comment made during a safety workshop. The workshop was for York University students. The comment was "if you don't dress like Sluts you won't get raped" I never did learn the age of the cop who made this statement, he was suspended, ad will have to attend "sensitivity" workshops. Personally I think he should have been fired. As long as attitudes like that are around rape is going to continue to be under reported, and women will not trust the system.

[marypcb.livejournal.com]

I was musing on this after some TV show or other; if the level of consent to achieve is 'she didn't stop me or say no out loud so I count it as a yes' then you're just getting away with one form of pressure or other. Anything less than utter and informed enthusiasm should be treated as a no, but the default too often seems to be 'if I didn't hear no then of course it's yes'.