Done yesterday (20111106 Su)

[mdlbear]

A pretty good day. The main event was the Lamplighters gala, which was steampunk-themed this year and gorgeously silly as usual. I was particularly amused (as in laughing out loud) by some of the musical references.

This was preceeded and followed by food -- brunch at El Torito (no chili rellenos; grump) and a rather late dinner at Buck's. I felt that the YD was something of a drag on the mood, but she claimed to be enjoying it. My ability to read people's moods (including my own) is still highly unreliable.

She was definitely angry over brunch, which led to my feeling very discouraged (details in notes).

I ended the gala in a far, far better mood than I went into it with; I really have to be dragged to things sometimes. (Colleen would probably say "most of the time".) Should have gone to Saturday's housefilk, too, I suppose. But I did get a lot done on the makefile revamp. Didn't get nearly as much done on Sunday, but it's getting there.

A couple of links.

1106 Su
  * up 6:30; W=194.6; drugs, nose, teeth, exercise, laundry, light
  * reset clocks (back 1 hour) - forgot last night
    * microwave  * LR  * front bath  * oven  * Colleen's watch
  * Why Big Media Is Going Nuclear Against The DMCA | TechCrunch
  . album.make needs work -- it's very old compared to practice.make and
    concert.make, and is very broken now.  -> record.make
  * Brunch at El Torito.  YD angry at me; tried (for the Nth time) to explain
    things, but as usual it didn't help.
    ! feeling discouraged, and as if I can't do anything right.  Want to crawl
      into a hole.  Should have gone to the housefilk, too.  
      ' Ame:  Stop that!  You know where negative self-talk gets you.
  | lots of mucus in throat.  So maybe the improvements were just coincidence?
    Or maybe it was something I ate at El Torito.  Cream in the coffee??  :(
  @ "Pox packages," child abuse, and the violation of federal law 
    The anti-vaccination idiots being felony stupid.  Literally.
  * 2pm leave for SF
  * 4pm Herbst Theatre: Lamplighters:  Gala
    Fantastic, as usual.  Steampunk and mad science bring characters to life.
    Reality telegraph.  Hilarity.
  * dinner at Buck's.  Yummy.  Had a mushroom burger with more 'shrooms than
    burger.  (And no bun, of course.)

Comments

[judifilksign.livejournal.com]

Unclear from raw notes: YD is angry with you. WHO tried for the nth time to explain things? YD to you, about what is triggering her, or you to YD?

Something else that jumped out at me: "I entered the gala in a far, far better mood than I went into it with; I really have to be dragged to things sometimes."
with
"I felt that the YD was something of a drag on the mood, but she claimed to be enjoying it."

My take on the gala was that BOTH of you ended up in a better mood than what you went into, and that the pair of you probably had a similar shift. If people around all y'all weren't avoiding her, she probably wasn't a drag on the overall mood of the event, either, but her mood affected you because you noticed her feelings.

You noted YD a bit more because you've been concerned about her mood for weeks now, and that she was angry at lunch, so you noticed more about her feelings overall than you used to. (This is actually progress, the noting, that is, "unreliable" or not.)

[mdlbear]

I tried, again, to explain why her BF is BAD NEWS. (I have a bad habit, possibly from Japanese but more likely just from lack of self-esteem, of leaving "I" off of sentences where it's the subject.)

She certainly wasn't a drag on the mood at the event, but both meals would probably have been happier without her. Certainly brunch would have. She had probably mellowed by dinnertime, and her BF didn't come up in the conversation.

Thanks for pointing out that noticing her mood is progress. You're right -- that's pretty good, for me.

[chaoswolf]

She still doesn't get it? Damn. I was hoping she'd pull her head out of her ass and develop some intelligence.