Experience

[mdlbear]

A recent conversation made me wonder just how many "relationships" (by some definition) I've had over the course of my life, and how many ended in "breakups" as opposed to just quietly drifting apart (or, in one case, staying together for over three decades).

So let's define a "relationship" as something lasting more than a month, with some non-trivial level of romantic involvement ("love" by some definition), mutual physical attraction and physical contact. Define "breakup" as an abrupt, major decrease in the closeness of the relationship.

The answers turn out to be seven and one.

The corresponding numbers for Colleen, who is 5 years younger than me, are four and zero.

Comments

[technoshaman.livejournal.com]

Hm. All over the map for me. Some broke up, some drifted, some broke and then drifted back, some drifted and then broke... and one broke and mended. (One broke and mended and then broke again, but that was high school... :)

Ironically, just last night I found what happened to my first college gf... she ended up taking a commission in the Air Force and ended up someplace near outer Mongoia (no, literally)... and some kids from Nebraska sent her base a big mural (which was how I found her, the web page about the mural). I hope she's OK, the page was from 2002... if she stayed on that base she probably is; if she got narfed by the Army, gods help her...

[mdlbear]

If you go back to high school, the number for me is zero. 2 by the time I graduated college.

[smoooom.livejournal.com]

would you believe 1 and 1 or 2 and 0. I I think 1 and 1 describes it best. A conversation with a friend after asking her about her new ring led us to find out we were both dating the same man. Who, get this was already married. His wife and kids were in England. She came over about six months later. the other one is Wayne

[deborah_c]

One and... well, either one, or zero, I suppose, in my case. The latter depends on how you define "abrupt", really: we went through a decline over three years or so, after 15 years together.

Going back to high school, both numbers are zero: we met in college.