When A moved in with me, one of the jobs she took on was dishes, which she did daily, to my astonishment and deliriously blissful delight and relief and ... did I mention blissful delight? (Did I mention that I HATE doing dishes?) I repeatedly told her how much I liked not having to do dishes, and always having a clean kitchen, to which she repeatedly said it was no big deal.
Well, that isn't so any more. (It changed when A was really sick for a while, but hasn't changed back again.) Now if I ask for dishes to be done, no matter how I ask, she reacts as if I'm nagging and/or criticizing (which usually isn't helpful toward getting things done and is never helpful toward getting them done in a pleasant fashion) and if I start doing dishes she gets upset and feels that I'm criticizing her (which makes a task I already hate even less pleasant). (She got upset when I bought paper plates too--they're not good for the environment. "I can wash dishes, she protested.")
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Date: 2008-06-17 10:31 pm (UTC)When A moved in with me, one of the jobs she took on was dishes, which she did daily, to my astonishment and deliriously blissful delight and relief and ... did I mention blissful delight? (Did I mention that I HATE doing dishes?) I repeatedly told her how much I liked not having to do dishes, and always having a clean kitchen, to which she repeatedly said it was no big deal.
Well, that isn't so any more. (It changed when A was really sick for a while, but hasn't changed back again.) Now if I ask for dishes to be done, no matter how I ask, she reacts as if I'm nagging and/or criticizing (which usually isn't helpful toward getting things done and is never helpful toward getting them done in a pleasant fashion) and if I start doing dishes she gets upset and feels that I'm criticizing her (which makes a task I already hate even less pleasant). (She got upset when I bought paper plates too--they're not good for the environment. "I can wash dishes, she protested.")
Sigh.