At that point, I would consider the time available and the occasion. Unless getting a real answer is crucial to what you are going to do next, if you have little time and an imporant social event, I would leave it alone until later. Because you /can/ ask later. Alternately, knowing that 'I don't want to talk about it right now' is one of the likely things that it means, perhaps asking if that is what she means would be helpful. In that, that conveniently gives her a socially acceptable way to say that you can talk about it later, or that she doesn't want to talk about it at all, or that she really /does/ want to talk about it, but wasn't sure that you wanted to.
I do agree that at least saying something like 'I don't really want to talk about it now' would be more helpful, especially when you know that you're dealing with someone who doesn't do subtle. But sometimes social conditioning is strong.
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Date: 2008-10-21 09:00 pm (UTC)I do agree that at least saying something like 'I don't really want to talk about it now' would be more helpful, especially when you know that you're dealing with someone who doesn't do subtle. But sometimes social conditioning is strong.