A somewhat delayed insight from a comment Naomi made to me in IM when I
told her that I didn't have a social life in high school: all this time
I've been defining "social life" in a way that focussed on dating and
other activities where the point was to have or find a romantic partner.
I've also been very shy, for as long as I can remember, so of course I
didn't have one, by that definition. I did have some fairly
close (male) friends.
But that didn't count, by that definition.
Even now, what I've been calling my "social life" (what there is of it)
mostly of the handful of parties I go to, and things I do with Colleen. I
don't think of conventions, late-night conversations, song-swapping
sessions and filk circles as part of a "social life".
Silly old Bear.
Fortunately, my background in science and software makes me familiar with
the idea that changing the way you describe a problem can drastically
simplify it or even make it go away. It's never too late for a paradigm
Not that knowing that I had a social life after all would have helped me