River: you're not listening

[mdlbear]

It just occurred to me that maybe Colleen's constant complaint of "you're not listening" might mean something like "I was expecting some kind of emotional reaction from you, but all I got was a logical reaction or a question."

The emotional reaction might be something like sympathy or agreement; I don't know. The question is usually a baffled request for clarification; the logical reaction is often a response to what her words actually meant rather than the thought she was trying to express.

Or maybe it sometimes just means "you didn't say what I was expecting you to say."

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[shadowe_wraithe]

Well after 18+ years, with a 3 year separation in the more recent end of them...I still have to poke, prod and sometimes get insistent that my hubby listen, respond or talk to me, in a way I can understand. (And a bit of therapy thrown in for very good measure here and there I might add)

((((STEVE))))

You are making progress, believe it or not. But the best thing I can say for you right now is that you are trying to sort through things. I am very proud of you. Don't give up. Many things will come to light, and with the love you two have for each other, you will eventually sort things out. Even though sometimes it may seem like that is never going to happen.

LindaNeely has a very good grasp of some ways to try to sort through the fuzziness of the *What are you actually saying/feeling/expecting* when it happens...I may try some of her suggestions myself.

Love, Hugs and Blessings,
Shadowe