mdlbear: (hacker glider)

Hackers are used to working with computers, which are fast, accurate, and extremely literal-minded. A hacker knows, deep down in his guts, that if something is wrong with the program he's writing, it's his fault. The normal human mechanisms of blame-shifting and denial don't come into play at all: the only thing to do is fix the problem and move on.

This means that if you can point out something that the hacker in your life is doing wrong, there's an excellent chance that he'll get to work on it. My father provided a good example of this: he discovered that he didn't have anything to talk about besides technology. That's fine with other techies, but not very helpful at cocktail parties. Someone else (um... \me looks in mirror and clears throat) might have stuck to his own kind, or crawled off into a corner to read.

Dad, instead, made himself an expert on wine, with a sideline in hotels and restaurants around the world. By the time I was in high school he had a notebook with not only the best places to eat and places to stay in hundreds of cities, but which rooms had the best view.

I do have to warn you that there's a downside to dealing with machines a lot of the time: it's safe to yell at a machine, because it has no feelings to hurt. There's anger there, but it's not really directed at the machine -- it's really directed at himself. How could he possibly have been so stupid? A few minutes later, of course, he'll figure out exactly how, and by the end of the day he'll be happily telling the story of his own stupidity, and his clever fix for it, to anyone who stands still long enough to listen. Just something to watch out for.

(Side note: I'm going to change focus of this series from geeks in general to hackers/computer geeks, because that's really the only subspecies I'm familiar with.)

Flow

2008-02-04 09:24 pm
mdlbear: (hacker glider)

This will probably, at some point, expand into a "Care and Feeding of Your Geek" article; for now it's just some notes on flow and how it relates. the Wikipedia article defines flow as "the mental state of operation in which the person is fully immersed in what he or she is doing, characterized by a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and success in the process of the activity." It's often described as "losing oneself" in the activity.

There's more. Go read it. I'll wait.

Most geeky activities -- programming, gaming, art, music, dance, reading -- are enhanced by the kind of active concentration that characterizes flow. Flow, in turn, is often one of the beneficial side-effects of Asperger syndrome, a mild form of which is common among geeks.

There are three things you have to know about flow and your geek.

First, if your geek is concentrating on something, you aren't there. Neither is he. (I'm going to use "he" to refer to your geek because I'm male, and this is partly directed to my keeper wife; adjust as needed.) Your geek may seem to be present; he may even be able to carry on what appears to be a brief conversation. Don't be fooled. Almost all of his mind is lost in what he's doing. Don't be surprised if he doesn't remember a thing you said afterwards.

Second, getting yanked out of a flow state hurts. If you break your geek's concentration, expect to be snapped at. It has nothing to do with you: he'd snap at a dog, his mother, or a phone call saying that he's won the lottery. The sensation, if you haven't felt it yourself, is a lot like being awakened from an exceedingly pleasant dream by a loud noise that can't be immediately identified. Your geek may not even remember what he says at that moment -- he'll be sorry about it, but he really didn't know what he was saying. You may have noticed him walking into lampposts while reading a book, too.

Third, however, is that flow is the reason why geeks often make surprisingly good lovers. Consider the implications of having 100% of his attention on you. If you ask him what he's thinking about, he might not be able to answer. If you ask him why he thought to scratch you just exactly there where you needed it, he probably won't be able to answer that one either. If you ask him to stop, ... never mind; you probably won't want to.

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